Forgiveness is one of the most important quality of life, and I agree to this. Forgiveness is an act and process of forgiving or being forgiven. When we forgive someone it gives us a feeling of peace. We need to forgive every person no matter what the person has done. It makes a confusing, upsetting, complex and sometimes impossible state of mind to reach serenity. Forgiveness not only makes the one who forgives feel better but also the one who is forgiven, it makes them realize their mistake. It makes us stronger and gives us the strength to go through hard times. Anger creates a lot of problem, but with forgiveness we can treat it. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
God is the best example when it comes to ‘forgiveness’. He forgives his believers. He forgives his preachers and by giving them the chance to repent their sins, he makes them question themselves. He is the only one who forgives and helps us to get rid of all our sins and make us pure and clean from the sins which we have committed. Forgiveness is setting our mind free from the emotion. The man who forgives an injury proves himself to be superior of the man who wronged him and puts the wrong-doers to shame.
It is the duty of our parents to incorporate ‘the act of forgiveness’ within us from childhood. It is our parent’s duty to teach us how to deal with it, as a child if we commit a mistake then how to undo that, repent it. Forgiveness is not a sign of weakness; it is a sign of strength. Forgiveness helps a person to rise from within. Forgiving someone improves your own quality and makes you a loving and kind person. Childhood is the best time to learn these qualities. One can mould a child and teach them good things, but if parents fail to teach them at a young then it becomes difficult for them to learn these after a certain age.
This is one of the best quotes which I love the most, i.e. “If we really want to love, we must love how to forgive” This quote walks us through a very pleasant thought that in order to love, we need to forgive. According to me ‘love’ is not the only main factor in life. Life is surrounded by many other things, but love is the only thing which connects us throughout. Love works like a touchstone in our life, a touch of it make things better. Relationship does not mean it will be full of love all the time, there will be ups and downs, there will be difficult times but in order to neglect all of that forgiveness is necessary. In a relationship when we forgive, we stop criticizing others for doing something wrong. Forgiveness is the key solution to all the problems. None of us wants to end up alone and therefore we go fighting with our inner selves. Forgiveness is the soul way to keep any relationship going, and that’s how it grows strong. To forgive, we should have lucid and calm mind. Forgiveness keeps our soul in peace. It helps us think in a broader aspect and makes our relationship stronger.
I remember one incident which happened between me and my best friend in childhood, whose name is Irshad. I met her when I was in fifth grade. Initially we did not know each other as I sat on the first bench but later when my class teacher changed my seat and made me sit next to her and gradually we became close. We were fond of each other and before taking any decision we used to discuss about it with each other. All of my other classmates were jealous of our friendship. We both started spending a lot of time together. We used to go shop together, watch movies together, hangout almost every other day. I never went out with anyone else apart from him. One day we plan to see a Bollywood movie and after we were so hungry that we plan to go to a restaurant to have dinner, but instead we started having a long discussion on which restaurant should we opt for. We were confused between having Indian food and Arab cuisine, and by that time I was so keen on having Arab cuisine and he was stuck on Indian food that it followed with a huge fight and eventually we did not eat and went home with our empty stomach. We were not talking to each other for days, even though we met with our common friends and sometimes saw each other as well, we did not exchange a single word. Our friends even started to pester us about what went wrong and why we are not talking but we avoided them as well. Our fight lasted three weeks long. I started feeling lonely without him and therefore I decided to meet him. It was late at night; I went over to his place and asked him for forgiveness. We forgave each other and things went well after that. That’s how I learned how forgiveness is so important in our life. Forgiveness can turn a foe into a friend and here he was my best friend. Therefore, mercy and forgiveness is the noblest form of act.
In our culture, it is to be believed that God says if you are not good with someone and don’t forgive them even if they ask for it then God will not forgive you as well. Forgiveness involves two people, making it a difficult venture. It is a complex concept and can take very long at times. Each person may have their own method, acceptance of apology maybe forgiveness for some. Forgiveness is the act of overcoming the feeling of resentment or revenge for the person who has done wrong actions. The ability to forgive gives us a sense of freedom and makes us suffer less and feel lesser misery and pain.
