Discuss about the Reflective Blog for an Examined Life.
A self-reflection is made to examine one’s work and the way they approach other people and situations in order to identify their strengths and weaknesses. It helps one to understand how they can correct themselves for further development. This paper features my encounter with a stranger on a bus as I was traveling from town to home.
I was traveling from town to home with my husband when we boarded a bus. Unfortunately, we were not able to sit next to one another as it would be our wish. I normally ponder myself an expert in dealing with the so-called silly and disrespectable men who take women for granted. I sat next to about a 40-year old man who moved a bit to allow me to have enough sitting space since the bus was almost full and I had no alternative. He seemed welcoming and a professional man little did I know the other side of him due to my ignorance but I thanked him. He hallowed at me while smiling and I could not resist the greeting nor ignore the smile. I remembered one day being told by my mother not to be smiling at strangers because this might be assumed to be an invitation I do not wish to offer or a conversation which is not of my interest. I tried employing some appropriate reasons to keep the stranger off and at a social distance but he was too hard to resist. The man shove his hand towards my crotch area and grabbed my hand and positioned his face very close to mine.
I felt like slapping the man’s cheeks but I remembered that I had my man on the bus who would stand for my situation in case things get worse. This paralyzed my body a bit with much perplexity while trembles of fear ran down my body. Several questions ran through my mind; who is this? What is he doing? Why is this happening? I finally gained strength and shook him off me while shouting at him, “Stop it, you idiot!” My man was seated just behind me who suddenly grabbed the uncanny man by his neck and threw him out of the bus which had just halted. The doors were shut and we drove away. I was left shivering and wondering how such a scenario has had to happen to me at such a time. A lady next to me asked me if I was okay and I nodded in affirmation. She asked me what was wrong with the man and I answered while smiling that I did not even know as I tried to calm down the weird encounter and avoid attention.
I did not know anything about the man who touched me but I am sure that he did not know that I had my “security” tight with me - my husband, who was able to throw him off the bus. This experience freaked out throughout the week. However, had I not have some extra support besides me, my reactions would have been stronger and quicker enough to draw attention or maybe not. I found it awkward to have a man breach my personal space by touching me and this was totally questionable. Otherwise, in such moments, it is not easy to predict one’s response. Life teaches us a lot and makes us experience a lot as a result of our cultural differences. Some people fail to understand that others stand by their principles and act in a manner that is ethically right and correct before people. Other people are culture or religious bound and do not entertain unethical acts as in the case of this man, to ethically upfront people this can be viewed immoral. No one should touch other people’s private parts without their consent; this must be avoided at all terms. I felt much offended and formed a negative attitude towards men from this experience.
A research has shown that various women experience worse encounters with strangers while on board even than mine and they just remain silent. From my experience, I am thinking of submitting the description of the man who harassed me and the details of the bus to the relevant transport police to take actions against such incidences.