Human Sexuality Polyamory: What It Is And What It Isn’t

The intention and range of polyamory

Discuss about the Human Sexuality Polyamory and Approach.

Polyamory is a practise of loving or caring about more than one individual at same time. The intention behind polyamory of every individual is different some do that in terms of responsibility, some for ethical or non-monogamy purpose (Gusmano, 2018). The range of polyamory differs from person to person some involves sexual sentiments in it by adding up intense behaviours.

Polyamory is a straight forward approach of loving a person in the way they are it does not include any sexual behaviour in it. The adverse effect of polyamory is not sex rather it is the betrayal of persons emotion by breaking the trust and social contacts (Gusmano, 2018). It is true that somewhere polyamory qualifies sexual orientation practise but the sexual context purely depends upon the factor like who is asking, what is the reason of asking and what are the sentiment involved behind it (Jordan, Grogan, Muruthi & Bermúdez, 2017). Some of people find out polyamory as a sexual orientation while some treat it as a personal choice.

It is true that sex is a positive force when done with agreement of both the partners and if carried with honesty and responsibility. Polyamory allows a person to love more than one individual at the same time but without breaking trust. For example a person can love two friends at the same time, it is not necessary that a person should stop loving a person before starting loving the other person (Live science, 2018). On the other hand polyamory is not about controlling any person’s behaviour it is all about loving a person. The love of polyamory is unconditional it is not based on any agreement or condition.

Polyamory is not the conclusion or a solution to every problem. It doesn’t help in fixing problems it is just a choice (Manley, Diamond & van Anders, 2015). Thus it not wrong to love or stay with more than one person at the same time. Loving and having sexual contact is two different things. It is wrong to have sexual commitment with two individuals at the same time. It is necessary to maintain sexual behaviour only when there is a commitment. Polyamory is getting connected only sexual only by one person so that commitment and trust is not broke (Manley, Diamond & van Anders, 2015). Polyamory is not about what they are sharing and doing in their relation. It is just a term that is used to define the relation with more than one person at the same time.

Polyamory is not just about sex

Polyamory is the ability or capacity to love for more than one person at a same time. In some cases it is practiced for desire or for intimate relationships with more than one partner at the same time. There is a difference between love and sex, thus practising sex forcefully is wrong. But polyamory is not just sleeping with multiple people it is just about loving multiple people at the same time. Polyamory is a different practise of having more than one spouse at the same time (Manning & Bloedel, 2017). A person can have more than one wife or spouse at the same time; it just about loving them but just getting connected to them in sexual behaviour. It can be compared with open relationship; it is not about cheating two persons or cross dating them at the same time (Noah, 2018). Polyamory is not about bounding a person’s freedom or asking them to stay in a relation with one person. It is just said as getting involved with those people who are honest enough is not wrong. It is just not a solution to a failing relation it is just a choice (Dryden, 2015). Polyamory was a mutual agreement between two persons to get involved; it is not a forceful relation that is practised. Poly doesn’t mean loving many people at different time; it is not about switching lover and discarding the last one. It is all about keeping many lovers all together at the same time. The most important rule in poly relationships is to communicate, so that any complications don’t explode. There can be chances of risk and issues when more than two people are in love together (Dryden, 2015). Polyamory is all about supporting or caring about feelings of people it is not just about sticking to just one certain person. Polyamory is not about cheating a person’s emotion or breaking their promises. It is just doing things by building an honest communication link between two parties. It is not wrong to get involved with someone else but it is important to tell the current partner. Thus polyamory is not cheating or playing with other emotions or breaking their trust. It is all about a choice to love more than one person at a same time (Mccullough & Hall, 2018). This allows maintaining more than one sexual relation but while making sure that all the partners are aware about the other one. It is not about getting involved with other person secretly or silently. It says that a person can get attached to more than one person but with assumption that everyone is aware about other relations.

Polyamory is not a solution to every problem

Polyamory is not a crime; it is a just open relation of trust and honesty. Polyamory is not getting involved with the person because of fulfilling their sexual needs but is just connecting with them as per the freedom of an individual. Thus it is not wrong to love two or more person at the same time. It is just an experience to know about many kind of love (Mccullough & Hall, 2018). Polyamory is not about hurting someone emotions or leaving them after gaining benefits. It is just being very open about the thoughts and connections felt with the person. It is not necessary that there should be a true love with one person. It depends upon views of person that they want to be part of polyamory activity or not (Mccullough & Hall, 2018). It is not true that polyamory doesn’t work it depends upon the understanding of a person. The condition of polyamory only goes wrong when there is act of cheating, lying, abusing and harassment involved in it. It somewhere helps in enriching the contacts and experiencing better relations.

It is only an affair to think about numerous sort of affection. Polyamory isn't about harming somebody feelings or abandoning them by picking up their benefits. It is simply being exceptionally open about the contemplations and associations felt with the individual. It isn't fundamental that there ought to be a genuine romance with one individual. It relies on perspectives of individual that they need to be a piece of polyamory movement or not (Domínguez, Pujol, Motzkau & Popper, 2017). It isn't valid that polyamory doesn't work it relies on the comprehension of a man. The state of polyamory just turns out badly when there is demonstration of conning, lying, mishandling and badgering associated with it. It some place helps in improving the contacts and encountering better relations.

Polyamory is often misunderstood, it is thought as an act of cheating or being dishonest. It is relations that have open communication about everything and there is no hiding or covering the behaviour. It is a mature and a sensible relation that helps in building openness. It is not about restricting a person to stay single or be in a relation. Apart, from that it says there can be any number of relations but there should be no hidden secrets. The moral values of a person are not hurt (Domínguez, Pujol, Motzkau & Popper, 2017). Polyamory is not accepting all the relation and sleeping with anyone. It is just having multiple people at the same time that can be loved or cared, it doesn’t involve casual sex as its part.

Some people generally think that polyamory is sleeping with anyone or with any individual who is interest in sexual activity, this is wrong. It is just about accepting new relations just to make new friends or to build up a strong connection (Antalffy & Houston, 2016). They don’t get connected to each other because they are interested in having sexual relations. It is open of the popular option that is taken by the people these days.

Thus it can be concluded that polyamory is the choice adopted by a person. It is not a crime or way to harm someone feeling by hurting or cheating them. It is wrong to stay connected or love more than one person at a time. The polyamory is connection with more than one individual just because of love or concern. They do not get connected to each other just to gain sexual benefits. The emotions or feelings of a person is not hurt nor it is wrong to get connected with more than one individual at the same time.

References

Antalffy, N., & Houston, L. D. (2016). Polyamory means the practice or desire of having multiple loving, romantic relation-ships at the same time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. Defined literally, polyamory means many loves (poly.

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