Individual Process Of Reacting To Loss: Impacts On Grief And Coping

Common grief responses

Question:

Discuss About The Process Of Individual In Reacting To Loss?

Grief can be defined as the normal process of an individual in reacting to loss. Often different people cope with loss of their loved ones in different ways and therefore researchers state that there is no particular process of coping with death. The way how an individual grieves depend entirely on the individual’s cultural as well as religious background, mental history, support systems, coping skills as well as his or her social as well as financial status (Parkes & Prigerson, 2013). Grief responses may develop as a result of both physical losses like in the loss due to death of a near and dear one or may be due to symbolic as well as social losses such as in the case of divorce, loss of job and many others. Each of the loss signifies that some valuable part of their life is taken away from them. This can be discussed with the help of an example. A family which has someone suffering from cancer may experience loss which in turn triggers the grief reactions. Grief can be experienced by individuals in different forms like that of mental reaction or physical reaction (Hagman, 2016). It also involves physical, social as well as emotional reaction. Mental reactions occurring as a result of grief mainly results of different symptoms include sadness, despair, guilt as well as anxiety and anger. On the other hand, physical reactions mainly depend on the alterations in the patterns of sleep, illness of different types, physical problems and also changes in appetite. Social reactions resulting from development of grief in an individual mainly results in developing of feelings which include social exclusion, feeling of loneliness amongst friends and family members, loss of will to work and go to jobs, schools and others.

Bereavement may be defined as the period after the loss during which the individuals experiences grief and the different symptoms of ill effects occur in physical, mental as well as social lives (Madrell, 2016). The time spent in the period of the bereavement depends entirely on the intensity of the attachment that the individual had with the person who died along with the fact that how much time was spent by him to anticipate the loss. Mourning may be defined as the process which people mainly undertake to adapt to the loss. Researchers have suggested that mourning is mainly influenced by the cultural customs as well as rituals and society rules which modify the coping mechanism of losses (Sidaway, 2016).

The meaning of bereavement and mourning

An interesting discussion can be set in the scenario which would help to know the various faces of the grief and how different experiences can be gathered by an individual along with the feeling of grief. All types of grief are not alike and they may provide different types of reactions. When an individual loses a very near and dear person in his life, a deep pain will develop. He would be hurt extensively as this type of loss reflects the immense role played by the demised person in the latter’s life and creation of the huge hole left by the demised person’s absence. Another type of pain upon death may develop due to a loss of loved person which will mainly be the pain of an opportunity which is now lost forever (Milman, Neimayer & Gillies, 2015). The individuals may feel at loss due to the unspoken words as well as the promised undone deeds for the lost person. This loss of opportunity results in a different type of grief in the individual. Many researchers also state that pain is not always the predominant emotion in grief. It has been noted in many cases, that when a near and dear one dies after a long period of suffering, it also may result in grief within the individual but he or she may also be thankful that ultimately the suffering of the patient has ended and he is no more at pain (Hall, 2014). Many researchers state that loss might not always be associated with intense grief and the personality of the individual may become one important factor to control the development of grief. Many take in the fact that death may come at the right time and therefore tears may be inappropriate response to death. When the individual feels that the deceased individual had lived life completely, fully and honestly, grief may be associated with a brink of smile (Spuij, Dekovic & Boolean, 2015).

William Worden had proposed four important tasks of grieving in his famous book called the Grief Counseling as well as Grief therapy. According to the author, every individual who had faced loss should go through 4 important tasks in order to accomplish the process of mourning. This model is flexible where the individual can adapt it to describe the different independent situation. These tasks of the model also encourage the model to develop an active approach to the entire procedure of their grieving.

The four tasks of grieving proposed by Worden's Grief Counseling and Therapy model

The first task that has been proposed by the author is to accept the reality of the loss. It has been seen that in many cases, even after the death of a particular loved member, it is seen that many individuals cannot accept the fact of his death and often consider that the depth has not taken place as they cannot accept the reality (Ayers et al., 2014). The fast task of a griever would be to face the reality about the loved member being dead. He have to accept the fact that the member have gone and would never return back which implies that reunion can never be possible with the deceased person. A person may be exposed to a prolong process of grief when the individual denies the fact of the loss as well as the meaning of the meaning of the loss (Smit, 2015). The feeling of irreversibility of the loss will add to the pain that the individual is going through. Although denial or hope for the reunion is normal immediately after the loss, it may lead to severed situation and therefore the individual should accept the reality of the situation and prepare the mind accordingly.

The next step is experiencing the pain of the grief after the loss. A large number of grievers are often noticed by the researchers to avoid the painful feelings by taking up a number of strategies such as being strong, moving away, keeping one self busy with different tasks also avoiding painful thoughts. This task states that the grievers should not take extra initiative to avoid such pain (Stroebe & Schutt, 2016). He or she should go through natural procedures so that they he or she can experience as well as express the feelings. The patient should recall and relate both pleasant and unpleasant memories of the deceased patient and allow themselves to experience anger, anxiety, loneliness, guilt, depression and similar others. The grievers’ should maintain transparency form their family members and social circle expressing their need and utilities because often people may misunderstand the needs of the grieving. The grievers should know that the memory of the loved one will continue but the pain related with it will lessen in time and ultimately disappear (Domingo et al., 2016).

The third task of the model would be to adjust with an environment with the feeling of the missing of the deceased. Often this step is perceived by different grievers in different ways depending upon the relationship that they used to share with the departed soul. They should take imitative which would help them to adjust with the present situation and alter the lifestyles, principle or others which would help them to adjust with the occurrences (Wilson, 2013). This could be explained with the help of an example. A person who is widowed may fear or even show resentment in developing new skills to suit with the newly occurred change in conditions of the lives o to take the roles which were previously followed by the departed persons. Often such grievers may need help and advice to be in order to suit with the new chances surrounding but the griever should take pride in the being able to be master such challenges by overcoming different barriers (Larson et al., 2014) .All these may cause tremendous pain in the individuals as it may make them remember their partners but all these are necessary to experience. If such a task is not completed fully, the grievers may remain blocked within the grief process and will not be able to resolve their losses.

Strengths and weaknesses of the model

The last step would be to withdraw the emotional energy and thereby reinvest the same emotional energy into other important relationship in order to continue a productive life. This does not necessarily mean that the griever has to find new replacement of the deceased member by finding new spouse, surrogate mother and others. By this stage, the griever should re-enter a new stream of life without the presence of the deceased individual. The griever in this task should build new as well as changed activities as well as relationships (Young, 2014). This however should not be taken as that the griever by accomplishing the task is dishonoring the memory of the deceased individual or that the griever loves him less. This task helps the griever to be balanced by simply recognizing the fact that there are many other people who also need them as well as many others which they should also love or are capable of loving (Charlotte & Gepphart, 2010).

One should also need to discuss the strength as well as the weakness of the model. Many others researchers often provide positive review of the model as they state that it is a very flexible model as this model allows the griever to move backward or forward in the task. By this statement, the researchers mainly wanted to say that all the tasks do not need to be occurred in the same sequence like that mentioned and that one can jump forward or backward through the tasks. However, it is true that it is advantageous for the grievers to complete one task before the completion of the next task for the best outcomes. Moreover, Worden has also stated that during the course of lifetime, many of the tasks may sometimes need to be revisited for the best completion of the stages of mourning (Bugglas, 2010). However, the negative aspect is that none of the models on grief and mourning are proved to be cent-percent valid and develop the best outcomes. Many researchers have found many positive evidences for the benefitting of the model but there are also many researchers whose evidences go against the utility of the models. Many grievers complain to remain stuck within a particular model for many days and panic as they cannot complete the task and cannot proceed further in the task. Moreover, as the model does not set any timeframes, often it is found that grievers remain shifting form one task to another unable to finally come out of the model successfully or may require high time which affects quality life (Currier et al., 2015.

Hence, from the entire essay, it can be concluded loss of loved one often result an individual to develop grief and bereavement. These in turn may lead to physical disorders and mental health may also be compromised. The individuals may withdraw them completely from their social life. All these may affect their quality of life making them enveloped in pain, distress, stress and despair. Hence, following the Worden’s theory model of mourning may provide great guidance to the grievers. They may undertake the four important tasks successfully to overcome their present feeling of pain and loss and develop their life for betterment and enjoy a quality life once aga.

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